Sexting and Social Anxiety
Let me break this down for you so you can better understand what it’s like to have social anxiety. Then imagine crippling social anxiety and being dropped into the dating scene.
What’s It Like Having Social Anxiety?
Social anxiety can be absolutely crippling. I’m always thinking about what the outcome of a certain action will be before I act upon it. I am constantly worried about someone hurting me or me hurting someone else. It’s a non-stop what-if game that never ends well.
At some point, I just started denying the existence of other humans outside of work. It was just easier than stressing myself out thinking about all the negative possibilities that may or may not arise with some ‘thing’ I’m about to do.
Anxiety comes in all shapes and sizes. Sometimes you get anxious over big things like accidentally breaking your mother’s favorite vase. Other times you’re terrified that you’ll encounter the ever so devastating conversation with the checker at the grocery store. It usually goes something like this:
Checker: “Oh it’s your birthday? Happy birthday!”
Anxiety ridden crazy person: “Yeah, you too!”
Then we let the existential dread set in. There are five grocery stores and Convenience stores I can never set foot in again because of that one time I said something dumb to the person ringing up my things.
Now, regardless of what will come of our anxiety, there is a certain level of normalcy we have to maintain in our daily lives. Some of us are better at it than others. But, there are things we can all do to help with this! Let me lead you on my personal journey.
How Sexting Really Helped Me
Perhaps it seems crazy but it’s true! I started off slow, joining dating sites that were specifically for sexting. It made sense because I have serious anxiety and suddenly meeting someone new isn’t my idea of a good time. My preference is to start off slowly with pictures and messages back and forth. I enjoy getting to know who you’re talking to so you don’t feel like you’re meeting with a total stranger right out of the gate. It is the best idea for those with anxiety that impacts their lives.
I was afraid I wouldn’t be pretty enough or skinny enough or tall enough. The list goes on and on. Being honest about how I looked and what I liked really helped me a lot when it came to meeting up later.
Can We Cut To The Chase?
Sure. Let’s get to the point here, guys. I started sexting a guy a year ago who was beyond patient with me. We had some very steamy nights… over the phone and we talked for hours and hours about what we liked sexually.
We traded naked pics and videos of us getting off to the other’s pics and videos. It brought us to form a bond of some kind. Both of us trusted each other with our deepest darkest fantasies and had never even met each other!
As we sexted back and forth for almost 3 months we began feeling like we may be falling for each other. The sexting got hotter and hotter as the days passed and we felt more of our hearts being dipped into our melting pot of passion. Eventually, we had no choice but to meet up in real life and see if we had any chemistry in person as well.
“Well, Did You Have Passion?”
I can tell you’re getting excited now so let me be blunt. The passion was immeasurable. So much so that we’ve been having sex regularly for almost a year. Because we were able to confide in each other for so long before we met we are able to have the best sex ever! It’s passionate and risky. It is fun and we get to play out our fantasies without any jealousy getting in the way
I have no problems going anywhere now. I’ve walked into every store I’ve banned myself from and public places are nothing to me now. Sexting honestly changed everything I thought I had become and for the better!